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Sunday, 12 February 2017

How On Earth Did We Do It?

We have been married for 42 years and seven months.   We are often asked how we managed to maintain such a long term relationship.  Damned if we know!
Maybe it has something to do with starting out with low expectations.
We got married in my parents living room with just our parents and siblings in attendance.  The whole schamooo only cost us $600 which included someone to take a few pictures.   I've known couples who didn't last until they got their pictures back.  We got ours.
The hubs didn't have much of a job or income when we got hitched.   I would have to start from scratch looking for work because I was moving to the city where he was already in residence.  It made sense at the time.
All our furniture was used except for the bed which was a wedding present and the couch also a wedding present.  We still have most of the furniture.  Hey, it's better quality than the stuff we can afford to buy new.  The stuff we did replace with new is now being used in our daughters home.
I never did get a job because the first thing I did was to get pregnant.  Oh well.
We struggled as a young couple but we learned how to manage on one small income and to figure things out for ourselves.  Maybe THAT'S why we are still together.  MAYBE today's young folks starting out have too much  given to them and done for them.  MAYBE when you start out with everything you have too high of an expectation for all areas of your life.
Just thinking and wondering about the whole thing.  Sheesh....42 years and seven months...what the heck was I thinking?

16 comments:

  1. I think you are on to something.

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  2. I think it takes a certain mindset, to be in it for the long haul. And to realize there's no such thing as a perfect marriage, just different approaches to handling the problems. Some people work it out, some people throw it out!

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    1. And 42 years and 7 months is something to be happy about, and to be congratulated for!

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    2. It's true..people aren't perfect so how can a marriage be perfect?

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  3. That's an achievement. Congratulations.

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  4. 42 yrs and seven months is brilliant.
    Congratulations.

    All the best Jan

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  5. A marriage that lasts is one that took a lot of work. Congratulations to you both.

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  6. That's so inspiring! 42 years!!! I'm on my second marriage--we celebrate our 7th anniversary in March. I'm already 46, so if we both live to an old age, we can make it to 42!

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  7. I think you're right about starting out with very little and having to work things out. Pulling together and communicating, that's the key I think. Lack of communication was our problem, a soldier husband, away a lot, by the time he got out of the army, we still didn't really know each other, in spite of having four children.

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    1. Yes, that could make things difficult. Plus, I think the men when they come back from the army are not quite the same men they were when they went in.

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  8. Quite a feat in this day and age. Be proud of that. I think we just want more and more as time goes on and no one wants to have just "enough". You guys deserve a medal.

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